You are not who you’ve been. You are not who your parents think you are. Heck, you are not really who you think you are.
Modern society has taught us that we are our desires, which is not true.
You are not your habits, either.
Who you are is made up of small choices you make every day, and who you end up being is the result of these seemingly tiny decisions.
In that sense, you can be whoever you damn well want to be…
A fact that passes most of us by because we don’t give it enough thought or enough time to see that it’s true.
We try to think a certain way for a day or two or three, and while we may feel better because we’re more disciplined and achieving more, we don’t see our bottom line change so we fall back on our previous habits.
We ignore the fact that these previous habits took time to form.
They likely occurred thoughtlessly, without our intent or input, yet we allowed them to become ‘a part of us’.
These degraded habits led to a degraded version of who we are today.
I have them. You have them. And we can all do something about them.
Change your idea of who you are by choosing to change that narrative.
It’s that simple, but not that easy.
1. You have to be present.
Any change you want to create won’t happen in the future and it won’t be the result of the past.
Let go of your past, your regrets, even the good in your life that you cling onto and compare everything in the present against.
(read that again).
Tell it, ‘thank you for being in my life, but now I have to go’ – both to the bad and the good.
Release the future by understanding that it isn’t real.
Not only is it not promised, but it genuinely is not real.
Those fears you have about your future, maybe about not making enough money or finding the right lady or being able to care for your family, they seem so real, but they aren’t.
The future doesn’t exist, so stop spending time there.
2. One POWERFUL realization I’ve come to is how I look at the right thing vs the wrong thing to do.
Alright…
You have an idea of who you want to be. You want to be rich, powerful, successful, in great shape, or a great adventurer, someone who grabs life by the balls and has his way with it.
Whatever it is, in the present, there is a correct and an incorrect action.
We’re taught from the day we’re born that the path to success of any kind is a brutal struggle against great odds.
It really isn’t.
It’s simply choosing one action over another.
We’re pushed that this journey is arduous, but it’s really not much more arduous than the ‘easier’ path of relaxation, no discipline, and failure.
In fact – and this is IMPORTANT – the ‘right way to live’, or the right choices, make us feel good about ourselves.
The more you do the work, the workouts, choose calmness and clarity over rage and anger, hope over depression, the more confidence you gain, and quite literally, the better life gets.
3. You have to be aware.
Self-aware, aware of reality, aware of what’s true and what isn’t.
Politics can be consuming, even enraging, but it’s not completely real. A tree (nature) doesn’t care about politics. It’s not of this earth or reality, but a story we’ve told ourselves.
Policies and so on really do matter, but it’s technically not real.
Much of what stresses us out isn’t real. Most of it is in the future or the past and thus not in reality.
The labels we use are rarely real, and they hold us back from being who we want to be.
When you meet someone, don’t listen to the labels they use to describe themselves (liberal or conservative, rich or poor, happy or sad, successful or unsuccessful), and instead get to know them free of these labels.
Forget about labels of ‘what success is’, and instead dive into work that makes you feel alive either while you’re doing it or when it’s accomplished.
Be aware of the decisions you make and simply make the right decision.
You have an idea of what you want to achieve (which is something we should all question) or that ‘games’ you want to play (if we choose to play a game, win that game… games include making money, marriage, physical health and fitness, and various other compartments of life)…
With that idea of who you want to be and the life you want to live, you’re posited with two choices…
Do this right now or do that right now…
Think in this manner right now or that manner…
It can be tiresome, at first, to be constantly aware, but the more aware you become the more present you become.
The more of these decisions you make, the less they become decisions and the more they become WHO YOU ARE…
Which was the point of this entire article.
Who you are right now is the result of choices YOU have made thus far in your life.
They were influenced by culture, religion, parents, and so on…
But they were still your decisions whether you were aware you were making them or not.
Be thankful for them because it brought you here, now take a bit more interest into what your current decisions will lead you to be.
Forgo any limitations you place on your future self…
Be limitless with what you think you can achieve.
Because you don’t really understand how powerful making the right decision is over a decade or two.
Nor do I.
What I do know is I’ve changed my trajectory in life based on these principles, and I’ve seen others do so in an even greater manner.
The present is all there is.
And it’s in this present moment that you create your future greatness.
Be Legendary,
Chad Howse
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